Social media has busted relationships WIDE OPEN these days. Relationships are now like a publicly traded company. The whole world now has access to and an opinion about you and your partner’s situation. What did we do before the Internet? How did we handle endearment or conflict? We probably called, or did some sort of in-person confrontation. There was nowhere to display it to the world besides the isolated incidents of maybe bashing some windows out or fighting in public but even that is only seen by a small amount of people. Since the Internet had its first birthday, it has matured rapidly. NOW people feel the need to give strangers all access to their love lives. The question always is, “WHY?” WHY do people want to reveal their partner to the Internet and why don’t some? WHY do people bring their relationship issues to the Internet and why don’t some?
Now there is no definite answer and everyone seems to have their own perspective but here’s what I think. I think for the people that do post their partner it says several things. It says, “I’m not single,” which seems to be considered a disease now. Chanting “single” has been somehow stamped that “Nobody wants you!” People totally disregard that maybe you don’t want a relationship. Nope, nobody wants YOU! So for these type of people, the Internet validates them. “I have someone I spend my time with.” “I have someone who wants my body.” “I have someone, period.” That’s all that matters… BUT let’s mosey on over to the person’s page that they posted … Do you see any signs of who they are with? What does that “say” if they have or haven’t posted the other person? Does it make the situation any less valid or real? What do you think about two people having a profile page and only one person acknowledging the relationship? I’ll tell you what I think. I think the person who isn’t posting their parter is trying to protect themselves to some degree, whether it’s from embarrassment, temptation or a misunderstanding…OR… Maybe I’m giving them way too much benefit of the doubt and they just flat out want to keep their options open. You know the Internet has become a very popular hookup and dating tool. MAYBE they don’t acknowledge the other person publicly because they have more than one lover. Yikes.
The decision to post or not post your partner is very conscious and convicted. It’s deliberate. There’s no “just because” or “I just wanted to.” What’s your reason? Be honest with yourself. Why do you want people to see? Why don’t you want people to see? When you get into an argument with your partner, do you take your feelings to the net? I have before… and his phone number. I had all my followers call him to play pranks on his phone. I got satisfaction out of that. Anything to be extra annoying and petty toward him was satisfying to me. I can’t lie, even now I fight the urge to post about any of my relationships but I kind of feel like, the guy always wins. There’s only but so far a girl can go without her ruining her own reputation. Unfortunately a guy can go to the LAST extreme in the book and somehow there will be girls out there who think it won’t happen to her and still get with him anyway after he has embarrassed other girls on the net.
Written By @passport_cutty