Lip Service The Blog: Rebound

Lip Service The Blog: Rebound

You’re dealing with someone new for a few weeks or months and everything is GREAT! He or she is giving you attention, spending time, calling, texting, and making all these plans with you…then POOF! They disappear into thin air. For some, it goes EXACTLY like this and for others it just quickly starts to dissolve. Who knows, you might even get blocked also. You have NO clue WHAT happened. You two were doing SO GOOD!!!  WHAT HAPPENED? I’ll tell you what happened. THEY GOT BACK WITH THEIR EX!

Unfortunately, this happens every single moment of the day. Hearts get broken left and right. Feelings get hurt. Confusion is in the air. I’m sorry to break it to you, but you were the rebound. Rebound situations are VERY intense and feel too good to be true, because they are too good to be true. The sad part is that rebound situations can be as short as a week or as long as even a few years. The longer it lasts the harder it is for you to accept that you were a rebound. It can’t POSSIBLY be true right ? What you two had was “REAL,” right? We all question ourselves like this.  It’s VERY hard to identify if you are the rebound, almost impossible actually. The only time you even start to wonder is when you have NO other idea about WHY things between you two have not been as intense lately.

I always say that two people go to war and innocent people get hurt in the crossfire. Did they do it on purpose to YOU? Absolutely not.  He or she was just trying to distract themselves and take the fast track to letting go of the person they were just in a relationship with. Is it selfish of them to have used you? Yes, but if it makes you feel any better, they probably did really like you. I say this because rebounds only even work with people that you actually have some to a lot of interest in. The problem is that their previous relationship holds a lot more weight than the new thing. If it makes you feel any better, they probably had NO clue that they would go back if their ex came running. In their mind, they were OVER that person. Hey, maybe they really wanted to be but exes have a way of coming and sabotaging anything new ESPECIALLY if they’ve seen you have a smile on your face.

Here’s the thing, it’s rare that someone ADMITS they went back to their ex. That’s why it’s so painful and confusing for you. They make up EVERY other excuse in the book. Why? BECAUSE THEY DON’T want to burn the bridge just in case their ex fucks up again. People rather let you down easily with excuses about work, money, kids, time, and stress than admit they were stupid/weak enough to go back to their ex. ESPECIALLY, when they’ve probably told you so many horrible things about their ex and why they would NEVER go back to them.

Here is the clarity and explanation you’ve been looking for. I know it’s a hard pill to swallow but hopefully you handle it like a big girl or boy and don’t try to seek revenge. It wasn’t intentional. It happens. Hopefully no babies were made during the rebound period.